Anxiety and help with feeling irritable and constant racing thoughts

When we suffer from anxiety we can find it very hard to relax, not only may we feel constantly irritable and uneasy, but also we may find it hard to switch off our mind and the constant racing thoughts that can go with it. The reason we have so many thoughts running around is because all we have done for the last few weeks/months is to constantly think about ourselves and how we are feeling. The mind now has a momentum to it and our thinking mind just goes into auto mode, it now has become a habit. This momentum, built through the constant thinking, worrying, self monitoring has created the feeling that the noisy/repetitive mind that feels out of control.

We may also feel irritable. This is because our nerves have become sensitised because of all we have been through. They may seem to constantly be on red alert for no apparent reason. Well this is due to all the pressure we put on ourselves to feel better; the constant worrying begins to take its toll and our nerves don't have a chance to rest, they are basically over worked. While we fear and worry about how we feel, then we are keeping ourselves in the cycle and not giving our nerves the rest they so crave While we over think everything then we are not giving our mind a chance to rest and hence it stays in this place of feeling out of control.

With an understanding of my symptoms and how I felt, I was able to go to bed at night without the constant need to try and figure out the day or constantly question how I was feeling. Because of this I was able to stop that constant chatter of worry and give my mind the break it so craved. I finally understood what was keeping me in the cycle. Every symptom and cycle can be fully explained, there is always a reason we feel the way we do. The way out is not to try and fix or suppress any suffering, it is to see what is causing the suffering and to then let go of this behaviour. There is great wisdom in any suffering, be it mental or physical, it is your mind or bodies way of telling you to change some thing, that what you are doing is not helpful. My confused/erratic mind was telling me I was over thinking, when I stopped over thinking, it went back to its natural/restful state. The more I tried to force it to shut up, to be how I wanted it to be, the more suffering I felt, it was telling me this was not the answer. When I felt anxious, it was my bodies way of trying to release this anxious energy, when I fought to feel different, used techniques to suppress it, then nothing changed, this was my bodies way of telling me to allow these feelings, when I did this anxious energy left my inner space and I began to feel peace once again.


There are many ways to relax, but just taking a step back from how you are feeling can help, even if it is just a walk in the fresh air to blow a few cobwebs away, or maybe a new hobby, like painting or gardening. Anything to help you become more outward than inward, to help you stop dwelling on yourself and how you feel. I used to go for a walk once a day and also listen to some music or take a bike ride. You don't have to 'try' to relax, this is an attitude, not something for the mind to execute or get good at. It is also not about ignoring your suffering by trying to distract yourself from it, it is more just adding different things into your day, to give your mind another focus and try and stay in the present. But what I found most helpful was to stay relaxed in my attitude no matter how I felt, to allow any discomfort to be there without trying to feel any different than I did and see it like the outside weather, it maybe a storm for now, but the clouds always pass. The more I allowed any discomfort, the better I felt, the more I resisted it or tried to change it, then the more suffering I felt.